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Minor tornado hits a few miles from home

tornadoMy son and I spent the late afternoon in the closet. I had already been up all night with him, due to his stomach virus, and was pretty tired. The hard rains were relaxing and I was reveling in some downtime on the couch, while he watched ‘Clifford’. Then the sirens started blaring. I popped up and changed to one of the major news stations, when the phone started ringing. It’s no secret that it wasn’t great news with all the action hitting at once. Although my son is completely better today, he was still worn out from being up sick all night and was terrified by the tornado warning sirens.

I popped him on my hip, and threw some pillows and blankets in our closet. I made him a pallet so he’d feel comfortable sitting there for a few mintues while I gathered things like bottled water and a cell phone, which had a next to dead battery. **note to self…charge phone…more storms hitting tomorrow.

Everytime a storm hits, I always think, “Man why don’t I have a storm ready closet?” I need things packed in there ahead of time so I don’t have to run around to shove them in while somethings heading our way. Everyone in tornado alley should have these necessities in their closets, cellars, or storm safe shelters:

*Flashlight with extra batteries
*12 pack of bottled water
*First Aid Kit
*blankets, pillows
*battery powered radio to listen to weather
*cell phone (preferrably charged…thank you)
*snack bars, snack food
*extra change of clothing/underwear
*ziplock baggie full of personal info like: credit card numbers, insurance phone numbers/policy info, emergency phone numbers, etc.
*those with children: extra diapers, food, formula, bottles
*travel pack (toothbrushes, travel toothpaste, wipes, eye drops)

If I forgot anything above….I’m sure you get the idea. I am making a promise to my family to be better prepared. I am printing this list off and putting it in action this week!!

The really good is…it’s a miralce actually…if my son hadn’t been so sick last night and I hadn’t kept him home, I would have been exiting at the exact place at the exact time where the tornado hit and flipped cars over on the road. I would have been exiting to go pick him up from day care and could have been in a serious accident.

… Although I never want my son to be sick, God used my son’s sickness to save me from a worse fate.

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The Beauty and Dangers of Spring in OKC

435801270_08cc4c9e49_t.jpgThis year starts out as any–strong rains leading into an explosion of color. Flowers in bloom along with any allergy known to man. They say pollen this year is at an all time high, which is probably why everyone I know is suffering from hayfever.

The birds sing their sweet wake up call to us as we awake each morning. They chirp from atop our chimney and it comes echoing through our home. My son is loving thier adorable sounds. Along with each of these wonderful things are the strong breezes that whip around our home, which makes my heart skip a little beat each time my window rattles. Those breezes are just tells or signs of the dangers of spring in Oklahoma. You see we’re in

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committing to myself

workoutI am not a huge fan of the gym. I haven’t been a faithful attendee in many many years. I started yoga about 6 months ago due to my conscience nagging me to do ‘something’ to keep in shape.

Let me clarify that I am one of those sickening people, who have a high metabolism and don’t really have to work out to stay at a target wieght. Most women hate women like me. I was a swim suit model about 18 years ago, but that body is no longer to be found. I won’t even wear shorts anymore. I’m not fat but I’m not firm! Being in my mid 30’s, I know that I need to start some sort of regimen for my future health. I know according to studies that it will help with osteoperosis, heart disease, and overall mental wellness. Not only that, but I need to set a good example for my son.

My husband has started a new work out routine this year too, so he’s been very motivating to watch. If he can stick with it — I know I can. He’s the kind that is all or nothing….kind of like a pendulum, swinging back and forth. It’s almost like he falls off the wagon of whatever kick he’s trying to achieve. He’s been going through one diet or exersize program or another the whole time I’ve known him, and he’s never stuck to it, however this time we made a contract.

He has to lose a certain number by November 24th, and then he’s allowing himself to eat what he wants on Thanksgiving. After Thanksgiving he has to maintain that number throughout the rest of the year. If he dips below this number, he has a week to reach his target number. If he fails to have a consistant workout and maintain his wieght, than there is a penalty.

My husband started a Christmas fund at work. So at the end of the year, if he doesn’t break his contract…he gets the entire sum to use as he pleases, which will most likely be a plasma TV. If he breaks his contract, then I get the money and I will pay off bills. I really want him to succeed and I know he will. He’s driven! This contract has changed his life.

I think it’s all about focus. Like my husband, most people get their desired wieght or result and then slack off. They think, “Whew! I made it…now lets celebrate with some chocolate ice cream!” Then they jump off the deep end for some more…they fall off the wagon. I would love to challenge those, on the teeter totter of dieting, to give themselves a reward that only pays out after 12 months!! This will keep YOU motivated to continue your healthy living and eating habits to sustain your desired target wieght.

Today was my first day back to the gym in months. When the ice storms hit Oklahoma, I used that as my excuse not to go to my yoga class. Then I injured myself and had to stay off my foot for about 6 weeks. I had no control over my injury. BUT I’m all better now and I’m noticing fat pockets depositing themselves above my knees. I have a muffin top around my waist from having my kiddo. These are things I hate about my body. I am 5’7 and 138, which isn’t bad but I’m soft and I don’t like it.

This is my commitment today….

I will lose 5 pounds.
I will tone and firm those areas that have been neglected for years.
I will get rid of the cottage cheese that is starting to get a little out of control!!!
Just because I’m a mommy—I refuse to let myself go!!!

I want to be healthy minded, and have a healthy body. Our bodies are our temples! I know I’ve been neglecting mine and today is my first step to committing to me! Now I just have to have the resolve to follow through. My gym is starting a ZUMBA class which encorporates Latin dance, and I can’t wait to take those classes. The dancer in me is itching to dive into it. I would love to have this body…body type I will keep you updated!!!

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peace vs. protection

As a loving human being, I would love total world peace. However, I am not one of those pagaent spoofs, that you see in the movies, that declare their stance with a southern twang of their desire for world peace. It’s a great concept in a perfect world, but we don’t live in a perfect world.

As a mother I understand what it means to protect what you love. If someone even thinks about trying to harm my family, I will strike and STRIKE HARD! Those that threaten my peaceful family unit wouldn’t ever know what hit ’em.

As a Christian, I want to give fellow humans the benefit of the doubt through God’s love, but I’m not clueless to the ways of the world and how warped most in it are.

This being said, I stand up for my country and have to take a stand for our military. Maybe coming from a military family gave me a diferent view to my world, but I know the sacrifices being made every day for me and my rights. The war and military protesters in our country have a right to their opinions, but they’re so far gone over the edge it seems that they can’t see their own rights ending at the end of their noses. It is not their right to bash our military. It is their right to object to it. It is not their right to try to defile monuments in Washington D.C as a symbol of protest! It is their right to march right by it yelling their crazy antics.

I just want one protester…..just once….to acknowledge all that this country, and the military, have done for them. If it weren’t for those honorable military men and women, who have served for generations before they were born, they wouldn’t be marching and yelling their protests today. They wouldn’t have their freedom of speach!

Am I a fan of war? NO! Do I think it’s time to bring our military home? YES! But do I believe in protecting what I love? ABSOLUTELY YES! Would I take drastic measures to do so? You bet I would.

I think 9/11 in my mind, made it necessary for us to strike back in protection of our country. Has the war gone on long enough? Yes, but am I an expert of the intimate dealings of the politics, in Iraq or the inner offices of Washington, to know what threats still lie? NO, I am not. Therefore, I can’t make that call…only the office of the President can.

I think this email I received, shown below, sums up how a lot of us feel.

Many of us will encounter “Peace Activists” who will try and
convince us that we must refrain from retaliating against the ones
who terrorized us all on September 11, 2001.

These activists may be alone or in a gathering…..most of us
don’t know how to react to them. When you come upon one of these
people, or one of their rallies, here are the proper rules of

1. Listen politely while this person explains their views. Strike
up a conversation if necessary and look very interested in their
ideas. They will tell you how revenge is immoral, and that by
attacking the people who did this to us, we will only bring on
more violence. They will probably use many arguments, ranging from
political to religious to humanitarian.

2. In the middle of their remarks, without any warning, punch them
in the nose.

3. When the person gets up off of the ground, they will be very
angry and they may try to hit you, so be careful.

4. Very quickly and calmly remind the person that violence only
brings about more violence and remind them of their stand on this
matter. Tell them if they are really committed to a nonviolent
approach to undeserved attacks, they will turn the other cheek and
negotiate a solution. Tell them they must lead by example if they
really believe what they are saying.

5. Most of them will think for a moment and then agree that you are

6. As soon as they do that, hit them again. Only this time hit
them much harder. Square in the nose.

7. Repeat steps 2-5 until the desired results are obtained and the
idiot realizes how stupid an argument he/she is making.

8. There is no difference in an individual attacking an
unsuspecting victim or a group of terrorists attacking a nation of
people. It is unacceptable and must be dealt with.

We either strike back, VERY HARD, or we will keep getting hit in
the nose.

Granted this email is just a joke…so don’t take this literally anyone! It’s just a little humor for you to entertain some thoughts on the military and how they’ve fought all these years to give you what you have today—your freedom!

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Using what God gave you

meA great orator, I am not! It’s not that I’m not good with words, because I am a very logical or analytic person, who help a few people along the way with words of wisdom. My mind has the what needs to be said, I just can’t get the words out in some instances. Like when it comes to public speaking, or speaking to someone under fire…I clam up! I stutter! I run my words together! I only speak well when I’m at ease with the person with me and or the situation I’m in. Conflict is obviously not good for my verbal skills. And my lack of ability to speak isn’t even that noticable to most, but noticable enough that I can not command with authority when I’m not confident speaking.

Writing is where I can excell in getting out a message…in a letter, card, or a blog. I am sure I make many grammatical errors when writing, but I still speak/write from my heart and it reaches those that it’s intended to reach. I use what God gave me to do His will in my life.

That doesn’t change the fact that I have always been bothered that I can’t just stand up and speak eloquently, like most around me. I think I could do better at this, but focus on my inabilities so much that it undermines me even more. Last night, I read in my devotional book,Faith for a Lifetime, an excerpt about reaching out with love. It helped me see this issue of mine a whole lot clearer. It gave me such peace, knowing that I can use what talents I have and be ‘okay’ just the way I am.

Don’t get me wrong…I subscribe to the whole SNL Stuart Smalley philosophy. I like me just the way I am…but get real! We all have things that bother us about ourselves that we would like to be better at! This doesn’t mean that I won’t keep trying to improve on my confidence level with my speech, but the little testimonial book gave me a whole lot clearer message.

May the Lord…incline our hearts to Himself,…that all the peoples of the earth may know that the Lord is God.
1 KINGS 8:57-60

Christa Kinde, Women of Faith Devotional Bible, stated, “God uses the simple things of the world to confound the wise. In other words, He can take our everyday routines, our oridinary curcumstances, and our simple faith to change lives. DONT LET FEARS AND UNCERTAINTIES GET IN THE WAY OF SHOWING GOD’S LOVE. Reach out to those around you. Tell them about your own experiences. God will use your kindness and unselfishness to capture the attention of the lonely and the lost.

I encourage you all of faith, who are afraid of testifying because you feel you need to stand on a street corner to do it, not to focus on what you could never do. I think Satan works on our fears…obviously. But what I’m trying to get across is that he gets in our heads, and tell us that we could never be workers of God because we’d have to do something we’re not comfortable with.

Yes, if you’re heart is being called to stand on a street corner…..for heaven’s sake…do it! Thats not my way, but it is for some. BUT if you’re focusing on all the different ways you could never testify or exclaim your faith—stop focusing on what you can’t do and figure out what you can do! Even if it’s simply stopping a someone at a gas station, and letting them know that God wanted you to give them a small blessing today, while handing them an extra $10.

Start small and work your way into what feel comfortable for you.
Leave your radio station on with Christian music when car pooling.
Ask your nieghbors if they’ve found a good church home.
Pray that God gives you the means to express your faith in some way that is unexpected!

Most importantly LIVE YOUR LIFE LIKE JESUS WOULD EXPECT….honorably with a clean living!
Keep Him in your hearts at all times with every action and word spoken.
Your life will be your testimony and others will take notice, I promise!
Pretty soon you’ll have people asking YOU–why you’re so different and what your beliefs are.
That’s your opportunity to share your faith and your heart.

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Manuscript in hand and ready to go?

For those of you who know me, you know I’ve been working on my manuscript for a year. I had most of it all done in 5 months with only a few chapters to go. It’s 51 chapters long. Okay….sounds long, but it’s a quick and interesting read.

For those of you who don’t know me, see the paragraph above :)!

This past year I have been slacking off in getting my query letters out to agencies and pub houses. After my husband’s grandma died, I took a break due to lack of creativity. PLUS I felt my query letter didn’t have a good enough ‘hook’ to get me noticed. Most letters don’t even get read anyway…they get filed in the all purpose trash can.

This month is my commitment month!

FIRST to get my taxes done and submitted, and then to finish my last chapter and work on getting it published. How many of you are on this path? This book has been in my head and in my heart for over 15 years, and is a beautiful story of survival. Most women that I’ve let read some chapters, for market research, haven’t been able to put it down and have asked for more. Even one year later, I have a few people that have called to ask when I can get a couple more chapters to them. A few of these callers have given me what I’ve needed to get back on the horse….taxes and manuscript…..taxes and manuscript.

Now it’s on to more rejection letters, which doesn’t bother me at all. In fact, the more rejection letters I get…the more excited I become. Those ‘no’ letters are that much closer to a YES! Whenever that may happen, only God knows.

Does anyone ever recommend print on demand or self publishing?