Fourteen years ago, against all odds my husband and I got married. When I say against all odds … it’s not said lightly. By chance — if you’ve ever read Facing Redemption – you’ll remember Chastity and Timothy’s wedding, and what a catastrophe it was. I modeled that fictional wedding off my own. (However, any people in the story have no similarities to my life — just throwing out a disclaimer.)
Fourteen years ago, on July 22nd, we went up against a double handful of things including but not limited to … power outages, crazy flash floods, two deaths during and before our wedding, a missing limo, a missing wedding cake, a missing groom’s ring, a last minute cancellation of reception hall on the night of the rehearsal dinner, and a whole lot more craziness.
You’d think that would be enough to turn me into Bridezilla or convince me to run for the hills, but if anything it made me more determined. Since I don’t believe in bad luck, I knew it was just life’s way of throwing a curveball at me… and I’ve got a pretty good swing. And, in my mind … the bottom line was – I knew that it wasn’t about the day, it was about the marriage — and this guy was a keeper. In fact, once I was standing at the church doors, getting ready to walk down the aisle, I had so much peace in my heart.
Heck, I figured everything had already been thrown our way … so by the time I was standing at the aisle … I knew I was ready to marry my man. After all, our life was about to start … and it’s about the marriage – not the wedding day.
In our fourteen years, I have to say we’ve gone through a lot! And, God has blessed our path every step of it.
Within the first year of our marriage, my husband almost died. He flatlined in my car, seconds before I was pulling into the emergency room drive, horn honking and headlights flashing. God spared his life, and our marriage took on a whole new meaning of ‘through sickness and health’. He took months to recover. Needless to say, we started appreciating the little things and loving each other more every day – grateful to wake up each morning.
Within the first three years of our marriage, we were told we would never have children without help, through fertility treatments … and even then … chances were slim. With in a couple of months, everyone and their dog was turning up pregnant, and it killed me. Finally, I opened the Bible to a random page … and the story of Sarah sat in front of me. I prayed over this verse, and told the Lord … I know you can get a healthy thirty year old woman pregnant knowing you did it for Sarah, who was far beyond child bearing years. One month later (on our wedding anniversary – I don’t believe in coincidences) I wasn’t quite feeling right, so I took a pregnancy test, which proved positive. We went back to our fertility specialist, who’s jaw dropped. He could not believe it. I told him – he was not the last authority on our lives … and God had other plans.
So here we are years later … on year number fourteen. We went to dinner and took a romantic walk around the lake last night. As we sat there, I reviewed our marriage with amazement at how fast its flown, truly understanding what ‘in the blink of an eye’ means. Last night, my heart was full of gratefulness … not just to my husband for giving me the best years of my life, as that man knows how to make me laugh, but to also and especially to God for blessing us for all our time that has come and is to come. I often feel like we run up against the most unusual challenges, but maybe because God knows we can handle it. After all, our wedding was one for the record books – and our marriage is too.
A few things I love about my guy:
He is the biggest goofball of them all, as every moment in life can be related to a sports analogy – and every instance in life deserves its own song lyric.
His quippy quick sense of humor, has most rolling in minutes as he’s sharp witted. I swear he could do stand up.
And … every day he is willing to not only put up with me … but be there for me. He’s sensitive and firm – so he is willing to take care of me while pushing me when needed. It’s a great balance.
Every day, I’m reminded that bad things happen. You just have to turn on the news to see the epidemic that is spread nation and world wide. We live in a fallen and dark world, but there is so much joy to be found through it all. We can plan all we want, and things can still spin out of control (take my wedding for example). So it’s very important to step forward in faith, as I stepped down the aisle with peace. Through life’s chaos, you will find serenity.
There is light at the end of the dark tunnel. Trust me, I’m living proof of it. I’ll leave you with one more photo from last night. I love lighthouses, as it reminds me to be the beacon in a dark world. God’s love is always there to anchor you in the storm …