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Drinking Haze

When I was 16-18, I lived in Japan, where the legal age to drink was 18. Of course so was driving, so we could do two for the age of one. However, girls, as long they were American, could drink pretty much at any age. I remember a lot of 13 year olds having access to liquor. As long as they looked old enough, they could gain access.

Binge drinking in today’s society is worse than it’s ever been. I’m not saying I’m a saint, because I’ve had my day where I sowed my seeds. I think that’s why this subject is one close to my heart….b/c I had a serious under aged drinking problem, and point blank— the underage drinking on and off campuses is very much out of control today.

Tara, at If Mom says It’s Okay, posts on this very issue today at her blog. She raises some very good points, and I’d like to have your input. The Amethyst Initiative is trying to get the legal age of 21 lowered to 18 in efforts to curb underage drinking. I guess some may say this is a great idea, or a great effort to help solve a very dangerous problem….but won’t it just open the door for more under age drinking? Won’t it crack the door and widen the gap to those who are 14+ that can pass for 18?

Now I know most will say…’You have to have an ID to get liquor’….but come on people. You know girls and guys alike can get alcohol without ID in many many places. So is lowering the age limit a good idea?

Or should we put more educational programs out there?
…..enforce more laws?….
and crack down a little harder on schools, who don’t monitor this problem and punish their students….but instead offer to lower the age to 18?

I’d like to see what we can do to stop the problem or curb it at least without letting the door open to more underage legal drinking. That means more underage driving on the roads for those 16+ drivers…That means more friends influencing their peers to drink…because it’s ‘legal’ for them at 18 now….that means in essence more alcohol related deaths.

Haven’t we had enough of that already?

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Fridays are full of Blessings…Faithful Friday 2-29-08

This week has been a crazy one, and not all good either but blessings have been abundant none the less. I needed (let me repeat…needed) certain clients to come through for me this month in order to make my numbers. If I don’t sell, I don’t get a paycheck. If I don’t sell a certain number, I get penalized at my office in many ways. Needless to say my month didn’t come together. It seemed every client who was a sure thing this month had extra ordinary things come through in their lives which left them unable to commit to me.

One client only had two documents/reports to get to me so I could process her account. She ended up at court at the last minute without a break for over a week. So what we started at the first of the month, will be continued to next month. The list of random acts of interruptus-workus keeps on piling on.

I was in a car accident yesterday, which leaves me without my car and a stiff back. I am tired and still have a lot to get done today.

Many of you reading this would say…Yikes–what a horrible week. Quite the opposite in fact…it’s been a life filled week as life happens every day, but it’s been such a blessed week for me.

In result of my car accident, many wonderful things took place. I’ll list a few here, but you can read all about it at my wornoutwoman blog. The few good things I walked away from yesterday’s accident were these:

**First and foremost, I was in the car solo so my son didn’t even enter into the equation. Praise God!

**That young ‘could care less’ kid, who hit me, drove away with a huge fat ticket! Cha-ching! (My husband says I sound like the woman in Fried Green Tomatoes with this statement.)

**My dealership gave me a loaner for a couple of days till I get my rental. That’s two days of free transportation. Another Praise God. In my financial situation, I don’t need anything extra to add on.

**My back is hurt…but nothing is broken.

**I got some quality one on one time with my hubbie. We ate Mexican food until the tow truck picked up my poor Passat, and I drank a margarita that tasted like Lysol.

(Yes it was a little hole in the wall, but it was a date with my husband and I enjoyed every minute of it….even if I drank Lysol sip by sip.)

As far as work goes, I just have to trust God that He is working for me with those clients that are a little slower than I’d like. I know they’ll come in next month, so I pray it’ll offset the deficit from this month.

The blessings this week in my work world:

**God opened a door for me that I won’t divulge any info on right now, as I can’t, but it will lead to the end of my financial issues in the near future. Hallelujah on that one.

**A huge huge client, that I thought would never had a chance of coming through, called me back this week. I proposed a pretty expensive process to them last month, and they’re ready to move forward. If this deal gets signed…again I can pay off part of my debt with that one.

**I gained another client for my photography business for a spring family shoot. The referrals are starting to kick in from the previous clients, so that’s a small blessing but an amazing one none the less. Every little bit helps.

**The last 1/2 chapter I had to finish my manuscript is done … in my head. Now I just have to put it on paper. I had an a-ha moment and 2 a.m. where God gave me insight to what would work best. Yeah, now I can tie it all together this weekend.

I always find that God closes the right doors and opens the most unexpected ones. I’m always amazed at his patience with me in my need to know everything NOW. He gently guides me through ‘the process’ and evolves me to be exactly where I need to be before revealing bits and parts of His plan for me. I’m so humbled when I see how perfect his way was, and how horrible it could have been if I hadn’t waited.

We’ve truly got an amazing God people. One that loves us no matter what short comings we have, and we’ve got plenty. One that shelters us if we look to Him, even in the worst of times. One that holds us and our future smack dab in the center of His hand. He sent his spirit to guide us daily…and I’m so thankful that God loves me enough to let me return to Him over and over and over.

I was talking to a blogging buddy, Tam, this week. She is a great praying friend and a sister in Christ. She said something amazing that stuck with me. She said I’ve been in the season [of winter — financially] for a reason and she mentioned how exciting it was to see God working to bring me out of it. She’s right. I’ve been stuck for over a year, in a very difficult place, but I’ve known the whole time that God was teaching me and using it for His good. It is exciting to see how He’s working in my life and my season.

Please start looking to your blessings through the midst of whatever season you’re in. I promise you it can change your life. If you’d agree to post your blessings on Friday, I’ll send you the code to this pretty little button at the top of my page. It will link back to my page, and I’ll know to go read up on your blessings.

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Faithful Friday 2-8-08

Can Christians Drink????

I know that Catholics partake in a few now and then. I know that a lot of Protestants do as well. How much is too much and what example is set for non believers?

I think there is a difference between all out drunkeness and have a few glasses of wine. I’m a prime example of both. In my wilder days, I used to imbibe to just let go of the pain of certain things in life. I had what some would call a problem. Before I finally looked in the mirror, and asked God for help in re-directing my life, I was drunk or tipsy 2-3 weekends a month. This resulted in bad behavior, mind altering issues, and in essence more pain.

Now I may have a few glasses of wine or a margarita once or twice a year. Last night for example at my husband’s swanky dinner, I had a few glasses of a white chardonay. I was getting over the stomach bug, and it was the only thing that settled my somewhat queezy tummy. It was a great glass of wine that went well with my dinner. I didn’t get tipsy nor alter my behavior.

They say a glass of wine a day is good for your heart. But how many people use that as an excuse to partake in a few too many? Jesus turned water into wine at a wedding celebration. But who uses this as a crutch to excuse their behavior and have another?

Question for you today on Faithful Friday:

Can Christians still have a glass of wine and still hold to their faith? How much is too much?

I personally think it’s what God is calling for you in your own life. When I hit rock bottom in college, I needed to let go of my behavior and the desire to drink. God took the urge from me completely and I stayed away from people I had once circulated with to ensure my walk stayed on His path. I know it was something He wanted me to cut from my life completely at that time.

I don’t think He condemns me for a glass or two of wine when I’m out for my anniversary or birthday, as this is once or twice a year in celebration. Not only because I don’t get drunk, which the Bible clearly states in wrong, but because I’m not in a situation that would expose me to danger. I’m not bar hoppin’ with the girls…I’m with my husband who would watch out for me.

Let me know what you think….