amen, america, anger, appreciation, beauty, blessings, blogging, care taking, challenge, Christianity, church, commitments, conflict, corporate, counseling, disasterous, encouragement, faith, family, family bonds, friendship, giving, God, gratitude, health, help, home

Walk in Someone Else’s Shoes

Imagine you’ve got an opportunity to try something new, but are nervous about it.  Imagine you’ve got someone, a co-worker, who said they’ve accompany you or help mentor you, to bring you along.  And you’re counting on this person (lets call her Jane) to help you so you don’t have to do it alone.

Now imagine you’ve set a time/date to meet with Jane to go over the particulars, so you could get the lay of the land to help yourself visualize what it is you’ve got to get done — only to realize Jane has forgotten about you and will not be making your meeting.  Now you have to move forward with no direction and have no idea how to do it alone.

What’s your first reaction?  Anger? Disbelief at their lack of reliability?  Or … do you stop and remind yourself that the world is not all about YOU … and this person may have had unusual circumstances that gave them cause to forget or no show?

Now imagine that you’re out grocery shopping, and you see Jane shuffling down the aisle with a sick and aging person next to her side. She’s walking as slow as she can to help what looks to be a loved one down the aisle in one of those motorized carts.  Although you’re still upset with her for leaving you holding the weight of this ‘new project’ and leaving you feeling like you’ve been stranded with it, you know you can’t ignore her.  After all she’s seen you and smiled from across the freezer section.  You lift your arm in greeting, and make your way there.  After all … it’s where you were heading anyway – as you promised you’d pick up a pound of shrimp for your family.

“Hi,”  you offer and say nothing more.  You’re still judging her in your mind for not giving you the support you needed.

“Hi.  How’s the project going?” She sadly smiles.

Here’s where hopefully it dawns on you that she has a lot on her plate, and you can see the bigger picture with Jane and not judge her for the small window or piece of your experience about her that you’ve only seen from work.

“I could use some help.”  You say wondering if you have the right.

“I’m sorry.  I’d fully intended to help you along, but my mother’s health took a turn for the worse.  My father died last year, and she took a fall last week … about the same time you and I were supposed to meet.”

“Why didn’t you tell me?”

“Well, I’ve been distracted to say the least.  And I’ve got a lot on my plate … I didn’t want anyone at work to think anything less of my or jump to the conclusion that I couldn’t get it all done .. which is why I delegated that project to you.  I knew I couldn’t take care of her and work that project at the same time.”

________

I’m sure you can imagine the rest of the conversation … Jane is balancing trying to be everything to everyone and something just  had to give.  Unfortunately for you, her exit was bad timing for you and your new responsibilities.  So what’s the bottom line here?

Too many times in life, we put people in categories or stereotype them as flaky or unreliable, when maybe they’re just coping the best they can with the circumstances they’ve been given.  Instead of judging someone or being angry with how they respond (especially if its in a manner which you would ‘never’ respond) – try to look at life through their perspective.  Try give the credit for the unknowns in life.  Maybe their life is full of complications – and your one project or task isn’t the big picture.

This post is about letting our assumptions go of other people.  This post is about thinking better of people.  Instead of jumping to anger – try jumping to empathy.  Put yourself in someone else’s shoes today.  Going forward when someone upsets you – think of what’s going on in their life instead of jumping to anger and judgment. This is something we all could benefit from, myself included. I think the world would be a lot better place if we all changed our filter and took the focus off of ‘our ego’ and centered it on ‘what Christ wants us to see’.

Try it … and let me know what happens.

abuse, amber alert, amen, america, anger, babies, bullies, care taking, children, Christianity, church, commitments, conflict, danger, death, disasterous, falling, family, harassment, health, help, life, medical, miracles, missing, motherhood, motivation, politics, prayer, relationships, safety, secrets, sex, sin, sleeplessness, society, surviving, women

Child Prostitution Ring Brought Down

I have to say a big PRAISE GOD for this weeks big story in the news. You can go to Yahoo for their updated story on an entire ring of Child Traffickers that were caught and prosecuted.

Nothing makes me more ill than the thought of someone being so vile, as to turn an innocent child into a sex pawn for their own gain. What kind of person wants not just to hurt another person, but to ruin the moral fiber down to their core? What kind of monster would break a child? It makes my skin crawl to know that there are those out their profiting off of this type of activity.

The Justice Department’s sting focused on the following cities: Atlanta; Boston; Dallas; Detroit; Houston; Las Vegas; Los Angeles; Miami; Montgomery County, Md.; Oakland, Calif.; Phoenix; Reno, Nev.; Sacramento, Calif.; Tampa; Toledo, Ohio and Washington. Now I hope they broaden their scope and continue on with their persecution of these vile human beings and rescue more children, who’ve either run away or been thrown out by their families. No child, no matter what problems they’ve caused or dealt with, deserves this.

I read in People Magazine today at the salon about Elizabeth Smart and was so happy to read she has a happy ending. Most kids don’t have a moderately semi happy ending, and she’s in the minority. She’s now trying to help those in her shoes, those abductees that are brought back home trying to find some normalcy in life. Thank the Lord for her miraculous survival skills and will to press forward.

In reading this I ask you for two things: Pray for the runaways and throw away children and teens in America and abroad…because some are shipped to other countries. And pray for the F.B.I and any government organization in their efforts to infiltrate these types of cells.

One of my good friends here in OKC, is traveling to Cambodia in July on a rescue mission for children sold and trapped into sex slavery. Please pray for her traveling mercies, and the children she comes in contact with. Pray for her safety even though she assures me she’s only dealing with the children, who are already rescued and need to be cared for.

She’s involved in the operation that will care take these children to help them learn what true Christian unconditional love is – an innocent, clean, releasing love that isn’t anyway dirty…sexual….or evil. She’s basically going to be deprogramming these children, who are forced into the sex trade as early as infants, to show them a motherly love vs. sexual abuse.

—What a mission she’s going on. I’m going to ask her to be a guest blogger when she gets back from her mission trip on Reality Chicks.

—My heart breaks for all of today’s lost children!

I also have to give kudos to Our Crooked Tree for giving me a link to a non profit org that works to save these children. Please go check them out.

allergies, anger, appreciation, blessings, care taking, challenge, children, Christianity, conflict, danger, death, disasterous, faith, family, family bonds, fatherhood, fathers, food, God, grandparents, gratitude, health, help, home, husband, lack of sleep, life, love, management, marriage, medical, motivation, Oklahoma, prayer, relationships, Rick Springfield, sales, secrets, sisterhood, sleep, sleeplessness, society, son, sons, space, spirituality, surviving, thoughts, wife

Bop till you Drop


Sorry Terri. This is not autographed. We went to Rick Springfield last night, and my wonderful husband had arrangements to get us back stage to meet him again. At that point I was going to have him sign this photo, from his concert in 2000.

My hubbie had his position backstage all night, since he did his show from there last night and got the opportunity to introduce Rick on-stage. My sister & I weren’t allowed back until after the concert. Security was heavy as many had tried to jump the barricades to get up close. I don’t get some people, but it was funny watching them try something stupid and then get in trouble for it.

Unfortunately my poor husband quickly came down with some strange stomach problems after eating some food he’d bought. He says his tummy was upset before hand, as he’d not eaten almost all day. I’d given him a sugary frozen lemonade earlier in the evening and he said the sweetness upset his stomach, but I don’t think the lemon ice started his downward spiral. It may have contributed to it, but he had some severe issues.

Scarrily enough, multiple vomiting in-sued and he passed out. He was as white and clammy as I’d seen him last time I had him in the hospital, which gave me the gut feeling that something was more wrong than sugar ripping into him. I hurried passed security, to ask for a medic. No barricade was going to keep me from my man.

It took a few minutes, but the medics arrived… as well as some lookey-loos. What is it about some people, who have to interrupt while someone is obviously sick? And continue to try to talk to them — oblivious to the fact that they’re feeling as if they’re on their death bed?

Seriously…my husband wanted to die on the spot from not only how he was feeling, but the fact that it was in public view….and 2 ditzy blonde girls want to ooh and aah over him? And then have the audacity to ask if my husband can get them backstage to meet Rick?

—>AAAAAh, that would be a BIG FAT NO!!! I had security send them off immediately.

Long story short we were in the emergency room all night and morning, where in my opinion they discharged him too early. IF a man can’t walk and is barely mobile, someone should be wise enough to keep him under observation!! We got home and he continued vomiting until 4 a.m.

I prayed and prayed that God would bless him just enough to keep meds down. Thank God for answered prayers! He’s finally keeping some meds and a little Gatorade down, and is resting comfortably at the moment.

The official diagnosis was the flu. BUT he had no fever or no symptoms prior to the food he ate at the concert. After eating, within 10 minutes he was vomiting. To me, my wife-dar, tells me that it’s food related…especially with all his food allergy history.

Here are some pluses for the day:

*We’re so blessed that he didn’t have any anaphylaxis issues.

*We’re so blessed the my son was at my mom’s, where he stayed the night.

*We’re so blessed my sister and boyfriend were there to help facilitate the operations of getting my poor sick husband into his work truck, so I could drive him out of there.

*I’m blessed by the fact that at the last minute, I rode to the concert with my sister instead of on my own car…that way I didn’t have to factor in an additional car in the scenario of leaving. My husband could have NEVER driven himself, and my car wouldn’t have been in a safe place overnight

Will you all please pray for my hubby? Pray that God gives him is healing peace? Pray that God blesses his stomach and intestines, so that we can keep liquids down him?

Thank you all!

abuse, america, anger, budget, corporate, D.C., disasterous, economics, financial, goals, government, help, leadership, life, politics, society, surviving, taxes, thoughts, Washington D.C., women, work

Seriously???

Okay I just got this via email from a family member. Not that I’m not for helping those in need, but not at the cost of my hard earned retirement income. The same retirement income that will most likely not equal the the level of cost of living standards, by the time I retire. Can anyone tell me if the below info is accurate? If it is…..I don’t know about you but I’d like a vote in how she decided my hard earned income, that I’m barely scraping by to make, gets spent.
Read below and tell me your thoughts!

Windfall Tax on Retirement Income

Hold on to your pocketbooks!!

Anyone who understands a fiat monetary system, our system, knows that most retirement funds lose real value and are not exactly what a person hopes for at the end of their work life. Some are, and those typically go to people in the public sector. We contribute greatly to those through a myriad of taxes.

Adding a tax to your retirement is simply another way of saying to the American people, you’re so stupid that we’re going to keep doing this until we drain every cent from you. That’s what the Speaker of the House is saying. Read below……………

Nancy Pelosi wants a Windfall Tax on Retirement Income. This woman is a nut case! You aren’t going to believe this.

Madam speaker Nancy Pelosi wants to put a Windfall Tax on all stock market profits (including Retirement fund, 401Ks and Mutual Funds)! Alas, it is true – all to help the 12 Million Illegal Immigrants and other unemployed Minorities!

Boy, are we in trouble… This woman is frightening. She quotes…’ We need to work toward the goal of equalizing income in our country and at the same time limiting the amount the rich can invest. ‘

When asked how these new tax dollars would be spent, she replied : ‘We need to raise the standard of living of our poor, unemployed and minorities. For example, we have an estimated 12 million illegal immigrants in our country who need our help along with millions of unemployed minorities. Stock market windfall profits taxes could go a long ways to guarantee these people the standard of living they would like to have as ‘Americans’.’

Africa, america, American Idol, anger, appreciation, celebrities, challenge, children, Christianity, commitments, earth, economics, encouragement, entertainment, etiquette, exercise, faith, family, family bonds, giving, goals, God, Jesus, life, media, positive reinforcement, prayer, questions, random, Religion, society, sons, spirituality, talent, technical difficulties, television

Rant….just a little

Tam posted today on something that just got me in a little rant mode.  Although I commend American Idol for their “Gives Back” show in getting our nation involved in doing something…anything to help those in need across our own nation and abroad, I’m more than upset at the moment.

Censorship is necessary in some forms so that our kids aren’t exposed to certain messages in the media and film industry.  However American Idol is supposed to be a family friendly show, where the whole family can watch and be entertained.

Last night they targeted their acts to the younger audiences, as the music industry is tailored to the younger generation.  These stars mentioned over and over, “Kids break out your piggy banks, parents get out your wallets.”

Obviously it’s a show where kids will be watching and tuning in…..

YET they censor the name Jesus, and leave in words like bitch and ass???  Come on give us parents, Christian and non, a break from vulgar language with our kids in the room!!  Seriously????

amen, anger, appreciation, blessings, blogging

Questions…

I kinda like this question and answer thing.  My question for you today on Hump Day as it’s half way to the weekend is two fold:

What is one of your triggers?  As in what sets you off is such a way that you need to pray to let go?

And how do you relax?  What puts you at peace?

My own personal answers?  One of my triggers is anyone that would intentionally try to hurt someone else-whether it be road rage to abuse.  My instinct is to get in their face and give them the ‘what how’!

You know..the ‘What’ do you think your doing?  and ‘How’ can you behave that way?

In these instances, sometimes I react and sometimes I pray depending on the circumstances.  When anyone messed with my sister, when we were both single and hitting the town, I for sure gave them the evil eyes and a few choice words.

Now as I’m not around as much of that, I try to get some peace by letting my reaction not take control and handing it to God.

How do I relax?

A good book, preferably in a hammock or on the beach….but in a quiet house will do.

abuse, america, anger, Christianity, commitments, conflict, disasterous, economics, faith, God, health, leadership, life, manners, medical, motivation, Oklahoma, prayer, racing, random, relationships, safety, society, spirituality, surviving, thoughts

Does anyone take accountability anymore???

Today I’m a little frustrated. A lot of you know that I was recently T-boned by someone who didn’t stop properly at a stop sign. You can read about it here. I guess my main question is summed up in the title of this blog, but I’m still amazed at the younger generation and it’s lack of heart.

Now please don’t get me wrong. I know that it a completely stereotypical statement in deeming the entire ‘younger generation’ apathetic. I know that we have some amazing young people that are doing great things in this world. So I should rephrase it as most of the younger generation, who takes the easy road in life.

After this kid hit me…I pulled over to the side of the road and he pulled behind me. I looked in my review and he was on his phone. I’d say he was calling the police, but he wasn’t picking his phone up.  He was already on it.  Plus one of his buddies showed up with in 2 minutes. My gut tells me he was on the phone when he hit me.

This 20 something kid didn’t get out to see if I was okay. He didn’t act like he’d had any part in the accident. He and his buddy were shooting the breeze talking about the weather. He didn’t give me eye contact. In fact if I wasn’t the one that was hit, I’d swear they were just loitering a street corner watching cars drive by. He could have cared less about any aspect of this scenario.

Maybe he didn’t care because he was driving a company truck. Maybe it’s because it only tore part of the bumper and his company truck wasn’t bashed in, like the side of my car. He told the officer that I ‘just came of out no where’!!!

Okay well when you’re stopped at a stop sign and 15 to 20 cars are driving down a main 4 lane road, you’d think someone would double check before just pushing the gas on and pulling out.  I was in my lane, driving like the rest of the other 15 cars were.  Did he not see them too?

When the officer ticketed him, he appeared dumbfounded. He couldn’t believe he got a ticket…because it surely (in his delusional world) wasn’t his fault!

Well now he’s refuting the ticket. That would be enough to irritate me just on principle alone…but if he gets out of his ticket than his insurance company won’t claim liability for the accident. That directly effects me because then my rates will go up and I won’t get reimbursed for out of pocket expenses like my pharmacy bill and my rental.

I was raised when you’ve done something in error, whether it’s and accident or not, you take responsibility and own up to your actions. I was raised that you do what you can to amend the situation. Mind you I am not a naive girl, but I’m still blown away that someone would deliberately lie and weasel out of things. It’s not that I don’t see it happen on a daily basis with people I meet on a small level…ie work environment or daily life. People tell white lies or manipulate the truth to fit their means. BUT today people, I’m sadly just shaking my head and this young kid and his lack of heart.

Please help me in praying for him and his conscience. Pray that God lays what’s right on his heart and mind. And please pray for me with this situation so that I don’t have any more than I can handle with my finances and how this wreck has effected that. Thank you so much. Thanks for letting me vent…I needed to.